By: Phoebe Suomie
First thing to know is that, if there are no falls and failures in your life, you will never know what you're made of and what you've got.
"Falls and failures are steps to greater success. To fall meaning you are ready to grow" - Dr. Paul Sky Berry.
Sometimes the unbearable part I've seen about failure is, how people look at you when you fail.
How they look at you when things don't go as you have planed.
Most times, when we are trying something new and different, we don't have absolute clarity of the outcome. And many times we get more understanding and clarity as we keep going. But if things don't work out as we anticipate, we are left even more confused and wondering how can we get back up and keep moving!
At this point, people may began judging you of the fails. This can be very hurtful and it brings lots of uncertainties within your mind and even self-doubts and lack of confidence.
You may look stupid to yourself and even to others. At this point its better to have quality people within your circle that push you back up with few words of encouragements. If you don't have this support system, tell the below to yourself:
The following image is an illustration of the journey to success. You will need to go through highs and lows just to accomplish your goals.
Failure is a verb and not a noun: Which means, failure is an action and not a person(YOU). You're not a failure, but you just fail at something. You don't need to allow it define you!
When you are trying, attempting to put the puzzle of life together. Many people may look you somewhat, and even say you're confuse and lost.
One thing for sure is: people who are not trying or ever tried anything new, they are the ones that sit and judge others for trying!
Failure has a way of shaming you, making you look and feel small to others if you allow the negative feelings dwell within your mind.
Understand that failure is an avenue and path to greatness that is, if you learn the lessons and move on. You're never to just arrived at a destination of success. Failure is necessary to make you into the person of success and also the journey worth while.
Sometimes you need to celebrate just the fact that you walk out of that saturations alive, and did not die; see it as success because not everyone had the chance to have come out alive. Sometimes you need to celebrate yourself for even daring to try!
Sometimes celebrate the fact that you did not go all in with your entire savings but manage to pull out of the deal at some point.
Sometimes you need to celebrate yourself for the courage to have dared to make and be the difference; launching your first art work, saving the first 100.00usd, making the first few attempts etc.
As illustrated in the above photo, the road to success is not all roses. If you understand how diamonds are found, you will understand why you needed to fail.
Love failure as much as you love success. Failure is a road to success if you don't quit.
Love you my queens, keep soaring as an eagle
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